Forgiveness 101

I may not be the best person to perhaps write this article as I myself am personally challenged to forgive as well. I always find myself struggling to forget more than forgiving. But, i guess this doesn’t really discount me the right so I’ll write it anyway.

I have friend who was cheated on by her boyfriend but decided to forgive him. She gave up her career and went home to the province to be with her guy. Ten months later she found the SIM card she bought for him so that they can take advantage of the unlimited call service. To her dismay the SIM only contains two numbers, hers and the other woman.

She flared-up and in seconds it all came back. So vividly she felt the pain, so real, smashing ย her again.

Many times, we find ourselves in the same situation. And it really is not easy. So what do we do or how can we help others we know who until now are hurting and still struggling to forgive.

First, it is important to acknowledge the pain. It means a lot if you know someone understands your pain. Let her vent out, listen and acknowledge them.

Second, once the person calmed down, it is important to remind them that forgiving means forgiving and at the same time forgetting. It is not forgiveness at all when it is not accompanied by forgetting. Forgiveness is 10% a decision and 90% forgetting. Another important thing the other person needs to understand is that forgiveness doesn’t mean the absence of pain.

For most cases, forgiving is not a one time event. Most of the time, we have to forgive the same person everyday. Lastly, it is important to make them realize that it is not them against the other person but rather them together against the nightmare and the pain.

I hope that my points above would be helpful in our daily conduct of business and even to our personal relationship. Have a baggage-free Wednesday everyone. ๐Ÿ˜›


One Response to “Forgiveness 101”

  1. lis Says:

    wow.. a very nice entry here.. and i thought where did you grab this? but i guess it was written by someone who has the experience or has learned the difficulty of forgiving someone.

    yes it is very hard to forgive especially if that person is someone you trust. because how can he/she do this to you? of all people?! and forgetting is the hardest part. They say that forgiveness is the side effect of loving someone. If you love someone, you are always ready to forgive even if it is hard. but i guess everything takes time..

    The Lord forgives so how could we not? God bless ๐Ÿ™‚

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